Counseling

In-clinic sessions

The therapy person to person and will take place in the counsellor’s office in Mohammadpur.

remote sessions

If it should be very difficult for the client to appear in the office after the first meeting, or if the counsellor is out of the country, it can be arranged for an online meeting.

Services Provided

Individual Therapy

The initial contact starts with a person-to-person individual therapy. The client will share the reasons for sessions, and after the counselor has given feedback, the client and counselor will agree upon the contents of later sessions.

Couples Therapy

The couples therapy may be initiated in the cases that the spouse is a part of the problem the client is facing . After an agreement with the client regarding what kind of information can be shared with the spouse, the spouse may be invited to the session or to participate with the client or in a separate session. The outcome of the participation of the spouse should be for the theraphist to get a better understanding of the problems in order to obtain a better result.

Family Therapy

Adult children may be invited to participate in the session or in a separate session if they are part of the problem, or if the client’s problem is affecting their lives.

Treatment Specialties

TO GAIN STRENGTH AND SELF CONFIDENCE

This will be beneficial to persons who may be raised in a negative environment or surrounded by persons who have been giving them negative feedback: Low self-value - critique - maintain low self-value and leads to self-loathing. During the counseling, it will be focused on positive reinforcement and encouragement in order to gain security and feelings of great self-value and self-perception and to strengthen vulnerability.

ANGER MANAGEMENT

Persons who are having anger management issues, will be guided in order to look behind the anger issues, and the cause of the outbursts. Examples can be: Feelings of being treated in an unjust way, being exploited by others or experiencing unacceptable behaviours by others. The anger reduction training will consist of guidance regarding identification of risky situations and provocations that can trigger anger, and identification of inner thoughts prior to anger outbursts and the justification of them. The client will receive practical guidance on how to handle the provocations that may cause the outbursts in order to stop the action of potential violence.

PARTNER PROBLEMS

This will benefit a client who is in a challenging relationship such as in a marriage or another form of close partnership. The counselling will be focused on identification of the most difficult areas of the relationship, how to deal with them and how to solve the problems. Part of the counselling will be regular methods (see methods applied section). This also includes assistance to a deeper understanding of their own problems, who is affecting the relationship, but also identification of the problems from the spouse or partners perspective. The sessions are initially individually based, however in some cases, it may be beneficial for the client if the partner participates in at least one of the sessions.

HOW TO BE MORE ASSERTIVE

Encouragement in order for the client to assert himself/herself among others who express different opinions about issues important to the client. These sessions will benefit persons who are experiencing that their opinions or decisions about important things in their life are belittled, ignored and not taken seriously by people who are important to them. Examples can be decisions important to the client's future such as marriage, choice of education, moving out from parental home, but also minor issues. Encouragement in order to be assertive in situations will be applied by support in expressing independent opinions: The importance of standing up for themselves, arguing their point of view, being steadfast without giving in or being convinced by others opinion in order to change their decision.

ESTRANGEMENT

`Respect is not given, it is earned" is often the attitude of today's grown children. This may only be an example of differences between grown children and their parents. After some time with no solution, conflicts may be so serious that grown children have cut out the relationship with their parents. The counseling will focus on understanding the estranged child at a deeper emotional level. Estrangement can be an attempt to reduce a grip that the parents continue to have over the adult child. Counselor's role: Guiding the parents in order to be able to see the conflict from the grown child's perspective. Supporting parents in avoiding the traps of defending, explaining, rationalizing or blaming the grown child so a reconciliation can be made possible.

COPING WITH GRIEF

To cope with the feelings of loss when somebody near and dear pass away, can be challenging. At times, society expects the bereaved to move on with their life before they are ready to do so. The grief and loss will always be a part of us, but at times assistance in order to move on will be needed. Through counseling, there will be given an opportunity to share deeper thoughts and feelings related to the grief, at the clients own pace, in order to make the grief more acceptable and controllable.
Grief can also be an overwhelming feeling as a reaction of other incidents and happening in life: The end of a close relation, marriage that did not happen, not being able to conceive, great disappointment in business etc. By sharing this in a professional environment, tools to cope will be provided for the client to understand and tackle the grief in a beneficial way.

EMPOWERMENT

Empowerment in one's life is about becoming stronger and more confident, especially when it comes to controlling one's life and claiming one's rights. The counselling will be based on inward focus: What can I do, what choices do I have, how can I improve my situation? Strengthen the client's responsibility for own feelings, life and outcome . Support in strength, freedom and feeling of contentment as well as support in influencing one's own situation in order to avoid victimization by blaming oneself or others. Encouragement to avoid feelings of powerlessness. and support in order to make good choices.

BETRAYAL

Betrayal may trigger crises, leaving people in a kind of shock, feeling of abandonment in close relationships such as betrayal from spouses, friends, and trusted family members. The victim of betrayal may feel that it is difficult to move forward in this kind of situation and may be stuck in the past. The support that will be provided contains guidance in order to make rational decisions about how to deal with the situation and what kind of reasonable predictions can be made for the future.

I JUST NEED SOMEBODY TO TALK WITH

The persons who may be interested in receiving counseling, do not necessarily initially have to identify specific problems. It may be a part of the process to do so, and to sort them out in order of importance. In some cases, it can be sufficient just to share a narrative in a strictly confidential atmosphere in order to get guidance or to make decisions regarding different issues.

NEEDS

Some people have suppressed their own needs in order to please others. Their own needs have never been met. In these cases they will benefit from identification of needs and encouragement to express them in close relationships where the needs should be expected to be fulfilled in order to feel safe. Emotional needs Social needs Security needs

Frequently Asked Questions

Initially the client will share their narrative and the reason for attending counselling and. the therapist may ask clarifying questions.

The therapy is initially individual based.  However if it is later on considered important and beneficial for the outcome of the therapy as well as agreed upon by the client, the spouse or family members may join at a later session or participate in an individual session in order to supply additional information.

A professional behaviour from therapist consist of respect, a non-judgmental and insightful attitude in an empathetic atmosphere, professional active listening skills applied, support, positive attitude and encouragement.

At the end of each session, the therapist will make a short summary of the session and ask for feedback or corrections from the client. It will then be agreed upon the theme for next session.

The session last from 60 minutes to 90 minutes according to the client’s preference. It is suggested that at least the first session should last 90 minutes.

It is suggested that the client comes once a week, especially in the beginning. If that is not possible, it should not be more than two weeks gap between the sessions especially if the theme of the sessions are lasting for more than one session.

Yes, the strictest confidentiality is maintained and no information is shared with relatives or others. This also includes children above 16 years of age. Information will not be shared with parents or teachers unless it is initially agreed upon by the children.

There has to be a match when it comes to chemistry between the therapist and the client and the sessions has to be on the client’s terms and conditions. The therapist has to be humble, provide good listening skills, be empathetic and give support. The clients have to trust the therapist and feel confident that the therapist is qualified to give guidance, and have the client’s best interest in mind. If these conditions are met, there is a great chance that the therapist is right for you. However, if not, or if you do not like the therapist for other reasons, there is no reasons to participate in further sessions.

Any person who needs support in decision making, who has challenges in relations with people important to them, who seek assistance to regain access to their own resources, self-confidence and self-esteem. Persons who may be stuck in their past, their own perception regarding incidents, and need support, empathy, insight in order to heal and to move forward in their life. Counselling are also an option for somebody who find themselves in a sudden difficult situation because of betrayal of trusted persons close to them, and  who need tools to cope with the situation and to gradually make a decision regarding a possible change in their future.

The method applied is inspired by Solution Focused Therapy, a therapy that has gained popularity in Scandinavia for many years. In addition, other methods within social work will be used.

Similarities with some methods applied by psychologists can be recognized, however the time spent on problem-solving can be expected to be shorter. The problem solving will be initiated preferably during the very first session.  Practical solutions and short time goals related to the client`s challenges, are emphasized. The therapist does not focus so much on the past and does not go so deep into the reasons behind the problems as an psychologist may be expected to do. 

To attend sessions may be out of some people’s comfort zone, at least before they feel safe. Some people feel more comfortable by applying written communication. This can be arranged after the terms and conditions are agreed upon.